Joy and Presence Group

Most powerful and highly intelligent women, think that they are not or simply don't see themselves the way others perceive them. I guide you to see the YOU that you TRULY ARE. Face your fears, feelings, insecurities and embrace them and show up in divine femininity!

  • Twitter
  • Facebook
  • YouTube
  • Instagram
  • LinkedIn

Beginning July 7, 2022

Image by madison lavern

Why joy? Joy is as easy as enjoy a spring breeze or the scent of a flower...or even speaking with a good friend. It only takes your full attention.


Why presence? Facing what keeps your speechless, motionless and completely frozen and resolving it with complete compassion and forgiveness. That is the sweetness of living.

Woman Taking Refreshments

Speak with Inner Compassion even when it's hard and retrain the people around you

Self-Empowerment is rebirth. It is the compassionate and empathetic leadership within


Join the Joy and Presence Group Experience, my six month group for emerging leaders meeting twice a month for 90 minutes plus in a community forum with unlimited support.

The next one begins July 7, 2022. $1,000/ month or $5000 up front.

Yoga at Home

Restructure - Take a stand for whatever is present in your rebirth. Lead with love and honor your values.

Sensuality - Create habits to honor your femininity

Nurturing Joy - Sleep, Thoughts, Food, Movement and Emotions

Pleasure - Your thoughts create your outer world also. In the second half of the program, you will activate your own femininity.

Sexuality - Sexuality is an expression of your emotions, thoughts, spirituality and self-honoring

True Presence - You now know true presence through integrating self-nurturing, Unum Yoga and allowing.

My Story


What most people don’t know about me is that I struggled with embracing being “too feminine”. I have always gotten compliments on my voice like, “you have a sexy voice”. Then there was my dancing..".how can you move like that?" Even just walking, I would get stares. I actually started smoking in my twenties so that I could sound manly. Sadly it had the opposite effect and I sounded more like Eartha Kitt’s Cat Woman. 

Those were all the outward "typical" sexy feminine challenges I refused to embrace. My innate soft- heartedness and peace-seeking nature led to being steam rolled often. So I adapted a hard shell that was a heavy burden.


Somewhere between becoming a wife and a mother I evolved, I fell in love with the joy of my femininity. I defaulted into my genuinely compassionate and loving self. I learned more about all of the sexy greats beginning with Eartha Kitt, Lena Horne, Diahann Carroll and Sade. I studied from the spiritual, sensuality, experiential and practical and discovered a gold mine in pleasure through presence. Yes, that are volumes on sensuality in Islam and I write about it in my book Detached Love.


The best part is that it is accessible to any woman whether you are a mother or not!

The very thing about you that makes you feel lacking is the most enriching part of you and the very ESSENCE of who you ARE… You only have to find the joy in this process. You have to be willing to create that JOY in every moment of your life. You have to stay in the being of you and not in the doing. The truth is you are only at the being of your journey. The fact is your vocabulary rules your world.

Tell me your story

This is a complimentary session to discuss how you would like to focus on your desires and how life changing that can be for you. Let's talk and go behind the veil of you you truly are.

  • Twitter
  • Facebook
  • YouTube
  • Instagram
  • LinkedIn

Are You Ready to Reveal Your Joy?

Join the Joy and Presence Group Experience, my six month group for emerging leaders meeting twice a month for 90 minutes plus in a community forum with unlimited support. The next one begins July 7, 2022.

The heart of self-awareness is staying integrity with your values; Self-nurturing is about the words you use to create your world “Sweet Talk”; self-compassion about creating practices and declarations; self-forgiveness is about letting go and together this is how you create self-trust. Trusting that you only have the moment of now to be and choosing only always the frequency of joy. Joy is the container and space holder of peace and love and attracts what you will have and directs what you will do.

  1. Self-Awareness

  2. Self-Nurturing

  3. Self-Compassion

  4. Self-Forgiveness

  5. Self-Trust

These pieces are so simple and yet not so easy. Exploring deeper levels of self-awareness, self-nurturing, self-compassion, self-forgiveness and self-trust as building blocks of each other become a Master Creator!!!


AND YES YOU ARE A MASTER CREATOR!!! Allow me to guide you with that.


Begin creating  your 2023 now


Create it with joy and presence! Are you like some of the women I have been speaking with lately, who have been robbing their lives of joy personally and professionally in the following ways:


  • Refusing to be grateful for what is and the benefits it offers

  • Refusing to receive words of encouragement, gifts or compassion

  • Refusing or blocking financial opportunities


If it identifies you or even a little, keep reading for your healing and to receive joy.

You may be looking at this list and saying, “No that’s not me! I am open” And I ask you to question that. If you are open, do you ever say “I know that already” or “I know, I’ve done that” or perhaps your go to phrase is “That doesn’t make any sense”. Have you ever considered that this line of thinking implies that you are not curious? Curiosity is what keeps you open to learning, knowing yourself and others deeply, and to being grateful for all that is. When you see a glimpse of something you have experienced and immediately conclude that you know, it stops you from the rest of the presentation which may end with a twist. Staying tuned in until the end is giving a thing your presence. The spark of curiosity and resulting gratitude is what offers you joy. Staying in the continuous flow of curiosity, presence, gratitude and joy opens the door to the energetic flow of reciprocity. Guess the benefits?


  • Financial opportunities

  • Gifts

  • Compassion

  • Gratitude

  • Love

  • Joy

  • A healthy body, mind and soul



Ready to stop the madness? Ready to create a better 2023? Great!


Beginning on July 7, 2022, I am starting the Joy and Presence Group Experience. This is only for serious women and men who desire to create and live into a better future. A world filled with everything you have ever imagined and so much more. Sign up for a Joy to Connect session to find out more.


With Joy and Presence,






The World's Best Joy Monger

Cordelia Gaffar is the World’s Best Joy Monger helping people to reveal their joy within.  Joy Mongering is a word she created after experiencing the brunt of people’s fear as a Muslim woman. In fact she has created a process she calls Replenish Me ™ to help you transmute fear, rage and anger into Joy. In one of her eight books, Detached Love: Transforming Your Heart So That You Can Transform Your Mind, she breaks down the Replenish Me ™ process through her research, client stories and her personal vulnerable shares.


The multidimensional genius she is, is further demonstrated as the mother of six children whom I homeschooled for 17 years; host of two host podcasts. She won Best Podcast Host for her solo show called Free to Be Show and collaborates as a co-host on Unlearning Labels.  In summary, she has won multiple awards: Best Podcast Host of 2019, Top National Influencer, Sexy Brilliant Leader, and inducted into the Global Library of Female Authors in 2020; and in 2021 nominated for Author of the Year and Health and Wellness Coach of the Year. She has also won the Brainz Global 500 Award of Influencers and Entrepreneurs for 2021 and won BOOKS for PEACE 2022 award.


She has been featured on America Meditating Radio, British Muslim TV, Spirituality Podcast, also featured on South African radio 786, and Fox News.