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What is Pleasure and Presence?

Most powerful and highly intelligent women, think that they are not or simply don't see themselves the way others perceive them. I guide you to see the YOU that you TRULY ARE. Face your fears, feelings, insecurities and embrace them and show up in divine femininity!

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Why pleasure? Pleasure is as easy as enjoy a spring breeze or the scent of a flower...or even speaking with a good friend. It only takes your full attention.



Why presence? Facing what keeps your speechless, motionless and completely frozen and resolving it with complete compassion and forgiveness. That is the sweetness of living.

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Speak with Inner Compassion even when it's hard and retrain the people around you

Self-Empowerment is rebirth. It is the compassionate and empathetic leadership within.

Restructure - Take a stand for whatever is present in your rebirth. Lead with love and honor your values.

Sensuality - Create habits to honor your femininity

Nurturing Joy - Sleep, Thoughts, Food, Movement and Emotions

Pleasure - Your thoughts create your outer world also. In the second half of the program, you will activate your own femininity.

Sexuality - Sexuality is an expression of your emotions, thoughts, spirituality and self-honoring

True Presence - You now know true presence through integrating self-nurturing, Unum Yoga and allowing.

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What most people don’t know about me is that I struggled with embracing being “too feminine”. I have always gotten compliments on my voice like, “you have a sexy voice”. Then there was my dancing..".how can you move like that?" Even just walking, I would get stares. I actually started smoking in my twenties so that I could sound manly. Sadly it had the opposite effect and I sounded more like Eartha Kitt’s Cat Woman. 

Those were all the outward "typical" sexy feminine challenges I refused to embrace. My innate soft- heartedness and peace-seeking nature led to being steam rolled often. So I adapted a hard shell that was a heavy burden.


Somewhere between becoming a wife and a mother I evolved, I fell in love with the joy of my femininity. I defaulted into my genuinely compassionate and loving self. I learned more about all of the sexy greats beginning with Eartha Kitt, Lena Horne, Diahann Carroll and Sade. I studied from the spiritual, sensuality, experiential and practical and discovered a gold mine in pleasure through presence. Yes, that are volumes on sensuality in Islam and I write about it in my book Detached Love.


The best part is that it is accessible to any woman whether you are a mother or not!

The very thing about you that makes you feel lacking is the most enriching part of you and the very ESSENCE of who you ARE… You only have to find the joy in this process. You have to be willing to create that JOY in every moment of your life. You have to stay in the being of you and not in the doing. The truth is you are only at the being of your journey. The fact is your vocabulary rules your world.

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This is a complimentary session to discuss how you would like to focus on your femininity and how life changing that can be for you. Let's talk and go behind the veil of you you truly are.

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The Emotions Opener & Transformation Strategist

Cordelia Gaffar is the Emotions Opener Transformation Strategist guiding leaders to use their darkest and most difficult emotions to show up powerfully as a courageous leader.  2020 was a year of very difficult conversations surrounding diversity, equity, belonging and inclusion and Ms. Gaffar has been at the forefront of facilitating this conversation on an organizational level. In 2021 along with award-winning Berlin based co-hosts, Mira and Peter Griffiths created the Unlearning Labels Podcast and workshops to help organizations to implement actionable tools and change policies.

She is also a force in women’s empowerment and awarded Top National Influencer, a Sexy Brilliant Ambassador and Leader, and inducted into the Global Library of Female Authors. Her new book Detached Love: Transforming Your Heart So That You can Transform Your Mind highlights her Replenish Me ™ Process, which is self-leadership surrounding practicing sustainable mindfulness. 


Her other awards include Best Podcast Host of 2019, for her Free to Be podcast,  Volunteer of the Year and best-selling co-author of America’s Leading Ladies: who positively impact the world with Oprah Winfrey and several dynamic women. 


Even with all of her accolades her biggest brag is being a homeschooling mom of six children.  As seen on America Meditating Radio, British Muslim TV, Spirituality Podcast, also featured on South African radio 786, and Fox News.